6 Things Wishful Thinking Gurus Won’t Tell You

It can be hard to bounce back when we are stuck in a rut. The more helpless we feel, the more we are prone to daydreaming and believing in wishful thinking – they seem like the easiest way out.

The problem is: The situation in which we feel trapped does not change – it is pure escapism and a safe haven from our fears.

It is nice to believe that by wishing for the universe to help us we could change our life for the better without having to face the unknown. Continue reading

How to Adopt A Constructive Mindset – And Why Positive Thinking Won’t Get You Anywhere

I was one of the few people who fell prey to self-help books telling you that positive thinking will enable you to achieve all that you have ever wanted. That your life will change magically without any effort except for changing the way you think. Sounds tempting, doesn’t it?

Well, I found the thought quite appealing.

Unfortunately, the trick didn’t work its magic on me. I imagined myself being successful and handling any difficult situation with confidence. I ended up with being even more frustrated, because I tried really hard to see everything that happened in a positive way, even if there was nothing positive about it. In the absence of the desired results, I started doubting myself and my ability to become a happy person ever.

Fortunately, I quickly realized that there was nothing wrong with me. You still can be able to succeed and live a fulfilled life, although you cannot change your personality from being a pessimist to being a true optimist entirely. Continue reading

Confronting Fear Sucks – Do It Anyway

When was the last time you deliberately jumped off a cliff?

Today? Yesterday? Last week? Can’t remember? Never, maybe? Of course not. Who would jump off a cliff if he can’t fly, right?

One of the best counter strategies is supposed to be confronting your fear whenever you can to get rid of it. Hate it? Me too.

Confronting your fear is one of the worst things to suggest to someone who is suffering from fear. You don’t tell a person who can’t swim to jump into the middle of the ocean, do you? Yet, when it comes to fear it is a whole different story.

Why? Continue reading